In geometrically frustrated assemblies local intersubunit misfits propagate to intra-assembly strain gradients, giving rise to anomalous self-limiting assembly thermodynamics. Here we use theory and coarse-grained simulation to study a recently developed class of "curvamer" particles, flexible shell-like particles that exhibit self-limiting assembly due to the build up of curvature deformation in cohesive stacks. To address a generic, yet poorly understood aspect of frustrated assembly, we introduce a model of curvamer assembly that incorporates both intraparticle shape deformation as well as compliance of interparticle cohesive gaps, an effect we can attribute to a finite range of attraction between particles. We show that the ratio of intraparticle (bending elasticity) to interparticle stiffness not only controls the regimes of self-limitation but also the nature of frustration propagation through curvamer stacks. We find a transition from uniformly bound, curvature-focusing stacks at small size to gap opened, uniformly curved stacks at large size is controlled by a dimensionless measure of inter- versus intracurvamer stiffness. The finite range of interparticle attraction determines the range of cohesion in stacks that are self-limiting, a prediction which is in strong agreement with numerical studies of our coarse-grained colloidal model. These predictions provide critical guidance for experimental realizations of frustrated particle systems designed to exhibit self-limitation at especially large multiparticle scales.