Mother’s Day – A celebration of ‘spirit’ or ‘person’

Today every public platform – Instagram stories, WhatsApp status, FB posts, Twitter, Malls, Markets – is flooded with Mother’s Day messages exhibiting the love for mother. Rightly so as out of all relations that we have, being a mother is unparalleled as it is a gift of God. But along with celebrations, it is equally important to know what we are celebrating today: – 

1. a) a lady who God chose to extend its world, OR 
2. b) a lady who has once torn apart while giving birth to her child, OR 
3. c) a lady who surrendered her personal life by choice for a child, OR 
4. d) a lady who fits in the classified image of a ‘sacrificing person’ all through, OR 
5. e) a lady who does whatever child says, takes their anger with calmness, and society displays it as her greatness, OR 
6. f) a lady who decided to be a mother at one time. Gave birth to a child, fulfilled her duties in the initial years, and later went back to accomplish her goals. She enjoys her personal life, meeting friends, and going out to get together while managing her motherhood to the best of her abilities with both good and bad days. 

With the change of times, everyone changes, like our desires, dreams, and outlook toward life, but we often expect the lady to be in the frame of motherhood for life that she was when she decided to be a mother, which is unjust to the human in her. Hence, it becomes cardinal to have the right contemplation while celebrating influential days like Mother’s day to ensure that the banner of motherhood should not subdue the individuality of a woman who has her aspirations, goals, ambitions, and flaws.

Mother’s day realization does not rest in displaying love to her for a day but in understanding her as an individual. To acknowledge that motherhood is just one part of her personality, and she is much more than that. Society should accept her not only as a mother but as a human who wants to experiment with life, who has the right to do wrong, the one who’s love for the child is to be weighed equally as the fathers love for the child. A mother should not be ‘taken as granted’ to sacrifice for her family; rather, it should be her choice, like other family members. 

Often to show the strength of a mother, we compare them with Mother Earth or Mother Nature and unknowingly lays pressure on a lady. It is suitable as a metaphor in literature, but a woman is a living entity who yearns, who has feelings. We should not glorify motherhood as an idealist profession; instead, it should be kept as a standard norm of life.  

No doubt that to be a mother is the greatest gift that God has given only to women may be for her unwavering strength, and we should celebrate today’s day for that strength in which even God believed. It’s time to celebrate Mother’s Day for the ‘spirit’ of a lady and not for the person as a mother. Let us celebrate today’s day to free a mother from motherhood, support a mother in getting back to her womanhood, and strengthen a mother in unleashing herself and fly high on her path without carrying the social baggage of people’s opinions. 

Happy Mother’s Day.