The things you do for me: perceptions of a romantic partner's investments promote gratitude and commitment

Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2013 Oct;39(10):1333-45. doi: 10.1177/0146167213497801. Epub 2013 Jul 24.

Abstract

Although a great deal of attention has been paid to the role of people's own investment in promoting relationship commitment, less research has considered the possible role of the partner's investments. An experiment (Study 1) and two combined daily experience and longitudinal studies (Studies 2 and 3) documented that perceived investments from one partner motivate the other partner to further commit to the relationship. All three studies provided support for gratitude as a mechanism of this effect. These effects held even for individuals who were relatively less satisfied with their relationships. Together, these results suggest that people feel particularly grateful for partners who they perceive to have invested into the relationship, which, in turn, motivates them to further commit to the relationship. Implications for research and theory on gratitude and relationship commitment are discussed.

Keywords: commitment; couples; gratitude; investment; romantic relationships.

Publication types

  • Research Support, Non-U.S. Gov't

MeSH terms

  • Adolescent
  • Adult
  • Aged
  • Courtship / psychology*
  • Family Characteristics
  • Female
  • Gift Giving*
  • Happiness*
  • Humans
  • Interpersonal Relations*
  • Male
  • Middle Aged
  • Object Attachment*
  • Personal Satisfaction
  • Young Adult