The aim of this study is to describe the immediate 'lived experience' of partners of breast cancer patients. Previous attempts to explore the reactions and feelings of partners have been restricted mainly to quantitative research methods. While these methods are valuable in collecting information on specific areas of concern, they are limited to gathering information that the researcher sees as important. Thus, the value of phenomenology is demonstrated in describing the experience as a whole. A problem in using this method is that it can be time-consuming, hence only seven participants were included in the study. The participants were selected on the basis that they had personally lived the experience and were willing to participate. Data collection was by means of in-depth, tape-recorded interviews that were transcribed and analysed. Significant statements were extracted from the data and linked to each other to form separate themes. The six themes which were identified are described: anticipating fate; fear; denial; helplessness; sharing of altered body image; and diversity of emotions. Finally, the implications for nursing are discussed.