Chemical selectivity is traditionally understood in the context of rigid molecular scaffolds with precisely defined local coordination and chemical environments that ultimately facilitate a given transformation of interest. By contrast, nature leverages dynamic structures and strong coupling to enable specific interactions with target species in otherwise complex media. Taking inspiration from nature, we demonstrate unconventional selectivity in the solvent extraction of light over heavy lanthanides using a conformationally flexible ligand called octadecyl acyclopa (ODA). This novel ligand forms pseudocyclic molecular complexes with lanthanide ions at organic/aqueous interfaces, revealed by vibrational sum frequency generation spectroscopy. These complexes are extracted into the organic phase, where femtosecond structural dynamics are probed by two-dimensional infrared spectroscopy and ab initio molecular dynamics simulations to mechanistically frame the macroscopic selectivity trends. We find larger-than-expected structural fluctuations and bond lengths for heavy Ln-ODA complexes that arise from an inability of ODA to contort around the smaller ions to satisfy all would-be bonding interactions, despite forming some individually strong bonds. This finding contrasts with the binding of ODA with lighter lanthanides where, despite individually weaker bonds, collective interactions manifest that minimize structural fluctuations and give rise to enhanced thermodynamic stability. These results point to a new paradigm where conformational dynamics and cumulative bonding interactions can be used to facilitate unconventional chemical transformations.