‘There’s no hope for men’ on dating apps, says man who can’t get a date
There’s plenty of fish in the sea — unless you’re a man, apparently.
In a now-viral TikTok rom-com, user Jeremy Cryer claims it’s much harder for men to find a match on dating apps compared to women, after finding out his female colleague matched with 39 men just two days after joining Hinge.
“There’s no hope for men,” Cryer declares in the two-part tale.
“Do you realize for guys we have to wait, like, weeks to get likes, let alone a person that we are interested in to send us a ‘like’ … [or] when we send them a ‘like,’ for them to accept it?” he incredulously says to his co-worker.
“We’re, like, shooting a basketball in the dark,” he continues. “Blindfolded, backwards, and hoping that it lands in a goal that’s almost smaller than the actual ball.”
Some people agreed with his assessment of the swipe-based app, saying they’ve experienced the same thing.
“I sat with my guy friend and we did a 5 minute bumble swipe where we had to swipe on everyone,” one woman wrote, agreeing with Cryer. “I got 55 matches he got 2. It’s so rough for guys.”
However, many women responded to remind Cryer that although the quantity of matches and responses are there, it doesn’t necessarily mean quality.
“From those 39 only like 2 are good,” one user commented.
In an update, Cryer said his colleague has narrowed her matches down to 17 men and is talking to a couple of them “off the site.”
Some TikTok viewers couldn’t believe she found that many people worthy of a swipe back.
“Most girls get hundreds of likes but I can’t believe she liked 39 back,” one commenter quipped. “Couldn’t be me.”
“How many actually engage though?” asked another. “I get a lot too but they never engage or disappear.”
Others said location also plays a part in how many matches you get.
“I’m a solid 2, and get an insane amount of likes … it’s definitely location and quality over quantity,” one user wrote.
In 2021, SwipeStats.io found that women swipe more than men overall, but are far more selective when doing so. They found the average female user receives about three matches per day while the median male user receives about one match and receives about seven messages per day while usually only sending five.