Dear Abby: My ex-mother-in-law constantly encroaches on my baby’s big first-time moments

Dear Abby: My ex-mother-in-law constantly encroaches on my baby’s big first-time moments

Dear Abby: My ex-mother-in-law constantly encroaches on big first-time events with my baby -- first haircut, first birthday, first Christmas dress. How can I politely tell her to back off?Krakenimages.com - stock.adobe.com

Dear Abby: My ex-mother-in-law caught wind that my 6-year-old would be getting her first haircut and took it upon herself to trim my daughter’s baby curls without telling me so she could keep some for herself. I am livid. She has taken the first birthday, the first Christmas dress, the first pair of shoes. I get that it’s her first time being a grandma, but this is MY first and only time being a mom. She is a delicate woman. How do I approach this?

-- First-Time Mom

Dear First-Time: Explain to your ex-mother-in-law what you wrote to me, omitting the part about “livid” because she’s “delicate.” The next time a first approaches, inform her politely that you wish to be consulted before she does anything else involving your daughter.

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