50 Ways to Support Your Child's Special Education: From IEPs to Assorted Therapies, an Empowering Guide to Taking Action, Every Day
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Communicate with teachers
Get homework done
Become involved at school
Ensure their children are well rested
Start a school day on the right foot
Advocacy comes in all forms, and sometimes itÆs as simple as helping people get to know their child and family in a positive way. This useful book will serve as an invaluable tool for parents looking to establish the best educational plan for their children.
Terri Mauro
An Adams Media author.
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50 Ways to Support Your Child's Special Education - Terri Mauro
50
WAYS TO
SUPPORT
YOUR
CHILD’S
From IEPs to Assorted Therapies, an Empowering Guide to Taking Action, Every Day
SPECIAL
EDUCATION
TERRI MAURO
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To Elena and Andrew,
for whom I learned these lessons;
and to Rick,
for always holding down the fort.
Inhalt
Einführung
1 Give Your Child a Calm Start to the Day
2 Make Sure Your Child Gets Enough Sleep
3 Go Through Your Child’s Book Bag Daily
4Memorize Your Child’s Schedule
5 Ask Your Child Three Questions Every Day
6 Eavesdrop on Your Child’s Play Time
7 Make Sure the Teacher Has All Your Contact Information
8 Correspond with Your Child’s Teacher
9 Meet with Your Child’s Teacher
10 Keep a Contact Log
11 Support the Teacher at Home
12 Support the Teacher in Public
13 Address Problems Promptly and Positively
14 Make Sure the Assignments Make It Home
15 Learn to Love Homework
16 Help with Homework, but Don’t Do All the Work
17 Make Sure the Homework Gets Delivered
18 Share What Works and What Doesn’t
19 Keep a Record of What Your Child Is Working On
20 Volunteer in the Classroom
21 Volunteer in the School
22 Go to Parent Organization Meetings
23 Help Your Child Join a Club
24 Attend School Activities with Your Child
25 Know Your Child’s Therapy Schedule
26 Sit In on a Therapy Session
27 Send In a Communication Notebook for Therapists
28 Talk with Your Child about Therapy
29 Know What the Therapy Is Supposed to Accomplish
30 Ask the Therapists about Issues at Home
31 Offer to Provide Needed Therapy or Educational Materials
32 Request Suggestions for Continuing Therapy at Home
33 Know Your Child’s Bus Route and Companions
34 Look for Bus-Related School Problems
35 Look for Lunch-Related School Problems
36 Know What Your Child Is Doing at Recess
37 Check In with Your Child’s Physical-Education Teacher
38 Learn How to Write a Good Letter
39 Stay Involved with Goings-On in Your School District
40 Learn about Local Advocacy Groups
41 Join an E-Mail Group for Special-Needs Parents
42 Prepare a Packet on Your Child’s Special Needs
43 Write a Positive Student Profile on Your Child
44 Read Your Child’s IEP
45 Meet with Your Planning Team Outside of IEP Season
46 Be Clear about Your Own Goals for Your Child
47 Make Peace with the Need for Help
48 Make Peace with the Need for Advocacy
49 Set Some Goals for Yourself
50 Enjoy Your Child’s School Days
Appendix A: Recommended Reading on Disabilities
Appendix B: Good Books on IEP Planning and Advocacy
Appendix C: Where to Buy Therapy Equipment
Einführung
Most books on special education focus on Individualized Education Plans (IEPs)—helping parents learn the laws that govern IEPs and how to wield those laws strategically in meetings with school personnel. That’s important, and there will always be times when battles are necessary and unavoidable.
But IEP planning and enforcement aren’t the only ways to help your child have a strong special-education experience. Involving yourself in your child’s education is important, too. There are many, many things you can do that will make a difference.
Ultimately, they may empower you to become more involved in the IEP process. And if you are already doing battle on that front, these fifty things can help you improve your platform for advocacy and engage in some positive interactions with school personnel.
Some of the fifty things to do in this book simply involve changes in your home routine. Others require interaction with teachers and therapists and caseworkers, and a few do deal specifically with those dreaded IEPs. All of them can empower you to be a part of your child’s special-education team, whether you’re just providing background support or actively working for change.
Many of these are things that parents of children in regular education do every day. They may be harder for you because your child is not at your neighborhood school, taking a bus to a place you rarely see. They may be harder because you are juggling so many other challenges and heartaches. They may be harder because you feel unequipped to educate your challenged child or to interact with educators who make you feel ignorant.
Still, among these fifty things, there will be at least one that you can do easily. Start with that. Then add another. Set modest goals. Anything is better than nothing. You are an important part of your child’s special-education team. You are the expert on your child. All the small things you do can add up to a big change. As we know from watching our kids grow, little things mean a lot.
THE
50
WAYS
1 Give Your Child a Calm Start to the Day
As parents, we tend to focus on what the school is going to do for our children. How will they maximize learning potential? How will they handle behavior problems? It’s a powerless feeling to know how important what goes on in that building is to your child, and how distant you are from the proceedings.
As it happens, though, you do have one very important power, and that’s the power to get your child to school in the morning calm, rested, and ready to learn.
It’s the duty of every parent, really, but all the more vital for parents of children in special education. Our kids are so much more likely to experience major stress during the school day— from learning struggles or physical discomfort to social conflicts or behavior control—than their regular-education peers. If there’s a load of family discord on their young shoulders, too, the way will be that much harder.
In his book Kids in the Syndrome Mix of ADHD, LD, Asperger’s, Tourette’s, Bipolar and More, pediatric neurologist Martin L. Kutscher suggests thinking of your child as having a stress speedometer; when the needle passes sixty, there’s going to be a meltdown. Things that happen during the day push that needle up, up, up toward the danger zone. Your child’s a lot more likely to hit that bad patch if you start him out at fifty-nine.
Think about how mornings go at your house. Identify the things that cause your child distress—getting up early? uncomfortable clothes? food that’s not a favorite? scattered backpack contents? bed-making? angry parental nagging?—and change them.
Easier said than done? Sure. But doable, and worth doing.
The beauty of morning routines is that they’re a whatever works
situation. Getting through that a.m. rush peaceably is such a high priority that all other rules and requirements can go out the window. This is not a time to argue with your child about what clothes she’ll wear or what foods he’ll agree to eat. Offer choices of mutually acceptable apparel. Serve whatever odd breakfast your child will consume (for my son, it’s often leftovers from the night before). Getting your child out of the house clothed, fed, and calm is more important than dressing her like a fashion plate or fixing a gourmet breakfast.
If organization is the problem, check the book bag the night before and make sure everything’s in order. If early rising is hard, do absolutely everything the night before—including sleeping in sweats or a T-shirt that can be worn to school. Should you be lucky enough to have an early rising child in your family, try putting that sibling in charge of waking all the sleepyheads up (including you, if necessary).
Getting your child to school in the morning with as clean a slate as possible is a way to support your child’s special education that involves no meetings, no research, no interactions with school personnel, just a change in the way you do things. And as a bonus, you’ll get a fresher start on the morning, too.
Five Good Reasons to Do It
1. It shows respect for school and the work your child does there.
2. Your child will be more likely to succeed and reach goals.
3. Good mornings are a positive experience for the whole family.
4. You’ll start the day feeling in control of your child.
5. It’s a way to make a noticeable improvement in your child’s school day that’s entirely under your control.
Three Bad Reasons Not To
1. School behavior is the school’s problem. Unfortunately, what happens at school doesn’t stay at school. It comes back to you in the form of notes and disciplinary warnings and Saturday detentions and wimpy IEP goals. Better to keep the bad from happening in the first place than to deal with the consequences.
2. Something always goes wrong in the morning no matter what. Okay. So make your goal for one fewer thing to go wrong. Every little bit helps.
3. I’m not a morning person. You and me both. If mornings are your worst time, too, all the more reason to get pretty much everything but breakfast done the night before. Make a project of it with your child, as mutual morning grumps.
Keep In Mind
Sometimes, the morning race is in pursuit of that early, early school-bus pickup. Ask yourself how much stress that adds to your mornings—and if the answer is, A lot,
think about whether you might be able to do the school transport yourself. A little extra time at home, plus a little talk time in the car, can provide a welcome morning boost for some kids. Assuming, of course, that you’re not speeding and swearing and yelling at other drivers all the way.
2 Make Sure Your Child Gets Enough Sleep
Once a year or so, whenever standardized testing rolls around in your school district, you probably get that note, the one that asks you to make sure your child gets adequate rest every school night. The school knows that students need to be well-rested and alert for the hard work of filling in bubbles on a piece of paper.
But school is hard work for your child every day of the year. For students in special education, most schoolwork is as challenging as those all-important test questions. Just sitting at a desk or maneuvering a pencil can be a test of will. So why not keep that rest regimen up all through the school year?
It’s one of the great contradictions of parenting that children who haven’t slept enough often show their rest deficit in overactivity. You’d think they’d just drop where they stand, but nope—they jump, they dance, they scram, they scream. That’s hard enough to handle at home, but in a classroom where a certain degree of decorum is required, it’s a disaster.
Enforcing bedtime is necessary, then, but it’s certainly not easy. You can put the child to bed, but you can’t make him sleep. Still, developing a bedtime routine, with a calm period free of electronic devices before the hoped-for sleep time, is a good place to begin. Two books worth looking at for suggestions on the hows, whys, and how muches of sleep for children are Sleepless in America: Is Your Child Misbehaving or Missing Sleep? by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka and The Floppy Sleep Game Book: A Proven Four-Week Plan to Get Your Child to Sleep by Patti Teel.
How much sleep is enough? That’s going to vary from child to child, but generally, experts recommend ten to twelve hours for school-age children, and nine hours for teens. Figure out the latest