Daughter of Apartheid
By Lindi Tardif
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It’s been two decades since the fall of apartheid, a quarter century since the liberation of Eastern European states, five decades since the death of American “Jim Crow,” and seventy-plus years since the beginning of the emancipation of the African states. Freedom has advanced, yet there are some Black people in South Africa, the United States, and other parts around the globe who question if it has advanced far enough and are embittered.
I am a Black woman born to the racist apartheid regime of South Africa. My family suffered the slights of apartheid--petty and grand--as well as the poverty, degradation, street violence, lack of opportunity, and other ills of the system.
Twenty years old when apartheid gave way to the Rainbow Nation, I have lived about half my life under that system. Those who came before me knew only separation and oppression, while those who followed were born to the idea that “South Africa belongs to all who live in it”. My generation--perhaps it’s not really a generation, but rather a seven- to ten-year cohort--knows both. Therefore. My generation has a unique perspective on what happened then as well as what is happening now, on transitioning from restriction to freedom, on recognizing and celebrating progress, on pushing through negatives to embrace forgiveness, hope, and humanity, and on understanding the importance of choice.
In telling my story, as well as the stories of some of my friends and teachers, I share my perspective on the issues I have grappled with--including choice, identity, forgiveness, and humanity--with those who are wrestling with similar issues in the United States, my adopted home country, and in South Africa, the country of my birth. Deprivation and marginalization are, after all, as hurtful and debilitating in inner city Baltimore as they are in Soweto, and making a deliberate decision to move forward in the face of either, or both, is always powerful, no matter what your address or particular circumstances.
Lindi Tardif
Lindi was born in Soweto to anti-apartheid activist forebears. Her dad was murdered and her paternal granddad exiled as part of the struggle. Lindi’s maternal granddad fought for the dignity of the oppressed, while her female forebears taught her the importance of making good lifestyle choices. Lindi earned four degrees from the University of the Witwatersrand and Boston University, is qualified as an attorney in South Africa, and is a finance professional at Amazon’s headquarters in Seattle.
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Daughter of Apartheid - Lindi Tardif
INTRODUCTION
Iam a daughter of apartheid, born to an unapologetically racist system of economic slavery designed by and for a minority who considered the majority to be less than
in every way. The system was called apartheid, an Afrikaans word meaning separateness.
But this was not separateness based on trivial differences such as We cheer for baseball while you prefer cricket,
or even more substantial differences like We are Catholic, and you are Jewish.
No, this separateness sprang from the belief that God had gifted the southern slice of Africa to a tiny group of people who had come from distant Holland and who had no connection to this land other than this one belief.
Strengthened by the influx of other Europeans, by the early twentieth century they had established economic, legal, cultural, and linguistic dominance over the country. In the middle of that century, in 1948, this minority formalized their control under the umbrella of apartheid. Not full-fledged slavery, yet far from freedom, it beggared eighty percent of the people, eventually restricting the bulk of the majority—those classified as Black¹—to homelands,
artificially created independent nations
within South Africa that were bereft of natural resources and unable to support the large number of people suddenly forced to scratch their soils in hope of survival. These tens of millions had no choice but to hold hats in hand and hope to be allowed to work in South Africa proper.
But when granted permission to enter South Africa, they were forced to inhabit an almost completely separate sphere, coming into contact with the ruling minority almost solely when working for them in menial positions.
Others in the oppressed majority—those classified as Indian and Coloured²—were similarly kept separate from the ruling minority, although their restrictions were a little less severe. Allowed to open small shops, serve in a restricted number of trades and even some professions, the Indians and Coloureds were legally separated not only from the ruling minority but also from each other as well as from the Blacks. For, you see, the ruling minority didn’t feel it was sufficient to separate themselves from all others. It also forcibly split the majority into three distinct groups—Indian, Coloured, and Black—before further dividing Blacks by trying to drive wedges between the various tribes and even physically separating them geographically according to tribe. This was done in order to create a secondary system of separateness that made it more difficult for the others
to coalesce as one, a separateness that bred resentment among the groups.
Apartheid was not an entirely new concept, for it echoed elements of the American system of Jim Crow
and the country’s reservation-based treatment of the Native Americans, the caste system of India, Australia’s treatment of the Aborigines, and laws and customs restricting the lesser thans
in many other societies. And like so many other oppressive systems, apartheid clung tenaciously to life, turning, so to speak, to tanks and torture in an effort to remain in force. Only after years of bloodshed and international pressure did apartheid crumble, unleashing equal measures of joy and rage, hope and fear.
A child of this bigotry based on skin color, I understand what it is like to feel the pressure to internalize the feeling of being inferior; to know that your horizons are harshly limited by law, custom, and attitude; and even to realize, at an early age, that if you are horribly injured and there is no ambulance available designated for your race, all the other ambulances will sit idle rather than come to your aid. Yet I also know what it is like to be raised by loving parents and grandparents, to be encouraged by teachers and pastors, and even to be assisted by some of the very Whites whose race was oppressing mine. I know what it is like to nurture hope for a better future, even as the world around you grows increasingly violent and dangerous, and many of those around you sink into despair.
I call myself a daughter of apartheid not just because I was born and raised under that oppressive system, but also because I was among the first wave of oppressed others
to move into spheres of commerce that until very recently had been beyond our reach. This was even more the case for me because not only am I Black, I was a young woman in what was still very much a White, male-dominated workplace. Some of my bosses and colleagues viewed me with curiosity, some with disdain; to some I was a threat, while to others I was simply something to tolerate. Stepping onto the bottom rungs of large, formerly predominately White legal and public accounting firms was all so new, so different than anything I had ever known. And so often, it was incredibly frustrating because for the first time, I fully experienced what it’s like to be treated as something different
and apart from the predominant group.
While my childhood was difficult and sometimes outright dangerous, living as I did in ghetto-like conditions in the areas reserved for the lessers,
my young adulthood was confusing and filled with hurdles. Yet those years were fueled by hope, driven by choices I had made years before, and other choices that had been made on my behalf. I had a sense that for the first time in countless generations, I and those like me had the freedom to choose our own paths and maybe, just maybe, to succeed.
I was among those who came of age during a time of tremendous change; I straddled the divide between apartheid South Africa and the Rainbow Nation. Twenty years old when South Africa’s first democratic elections took place in 1994, I literally lived almost half of my life under apartheid. Those who came before me knew only separation and oppression, while those who followed were born into the idea that, in the words of the constitution, South Africa belongs to all who live in it, united in our diversity.
My generation—perhaps it’s not really a generation, but rather a seven- to ten-year cohort—knows both. Therefore, my generation has a unique perspective on what happened then as well as what is happening now—on transitioning from restriction to freedom; on recognizing and celebrating progress; on pushing through negatives to embrace forgiveness, hope, and humanity; and on understanding the importance of choice.
Twenty-some years past South Africa’s rebirth, I am well into my career as a corporate international tax planning professional. I have traveled to many countries and been part of vastly different societies. I have enjoyed the delight of people predominantly responding to me on the basis of who I am rather than by my skin color. I married and gave birth to children across racial lines. I have seen that love knows no color and that color need not be a barrier to people connecting with each other at all levels. I have learned that past hurts and anger can be overcome, and I have seen people at their best. I have also seen societies and people far from this ideal.
In this mix of good and bad, I have seen that choice matters. I have learned that one always has choices, even if they are limited by circumstances. I have learned that life is driven by the choices made by individuals, families, small groups, large groups, entire societies, and nations.
We can always choose to view others on the basis of their humanity rather than by their skin color or the actions of their group. We can choose to reach out rather than close ourselves in. We can choose to study and to strive, even if our schools are subpar. We can decide, very deliberately, when we need to fight for our rights and how to do so in the most effective manner, in ways that, as far as possible, build bridges rather than tear them down. And we can also choose to release our anger, no matter how long and tenaciously we have clung to it, so that we may move forward.
Two decades past the fall of apartheid, a quarter century since the liberation of Eastern European states, five decades since the death of American Jim Crow,
seventy-plus years since the beginning of the emancipation of the African states, some Black people are still disappointed, angry, or embittered. In the United States, Black anger has coalesced around the Black Lives Matter movement, which posits that the state and vigilantes
place a lower value on Black lives than on those of other groups, and that Black lives are systematically targeted for demise.
In South Africa, some Black people are angry that more than twenty years post-apartheid they still do not have access to the country’s resources.
I wrote this book in hope that it will speak to all who feel embittered or that they are not receiving their full measure of rights and opportunities and that the system
is still rigged against them.
In essence, this is my message: I was born into a racist system designed to make me and those like me into economic slaves
whose mere presence soiled the atmosphere and could only be tolerated in small doses. I was born and raised in what was, at that time, an impoverished and often dangerous Black residential area. I might have spent my life poor and uneducated, angry and bitter, feeling victimized in every way by the man.
Instead, I chose to embrace faith, hard work, forgiveness, and openness to others, and to avail myself of all the resources at my disposal, meager though they were. I don’t claim to be superior in any way, for I realize that in my youth, I was guided to many of these choices by my faith, parents, teachers, pastors, and others. Had circumstances been different, I might have made different choices. Nevertheless, these were my choices, and as I grew older and exercised more control over my life, they became more and more mine.
And as I grew older, I saw how the choices made by others led them down paths that became increasingly restricted, embittering, separated from others, and cut off from opportunities. I am thankful that I was guided toward affirming choices.
Through this book I tell my story—and the stories of some of my friends and teachers—in the hope that these stories may be helpful to those wrestling with the challenges of our times. My personal story will be presented in bits and pieces out of chronological order, for this is not an autobiography. Instead, the various story segments will be used to illustrate the issues I have grappled with, including issues of choice, identity, forgiveness, and humanity.
I chose this approach because I believe in the African tradition and power of storytelling, in the new understandings that often emerge when people listen to one another and listen solely to hear, not to judge or critique. Listening in this way is a gesture of humanity—what Africans refer to as the spirit of ubuntu³—for when you listen with open ears and an open heart, you cannot help but learn something, be touched, or in some other manner step away from your prejudgments, if only a little. And with each of those little steps we take, we all move closer to healing and reconciliation.
CHAPTER ONE
OUR CHOICES MATTER
Igrew up in Soweto—that’s what everyone called the South Western Townships—an enormous, disjointed series of townships just outside of Johannesburg to the south. Imagine thousands and thousands of tiny houses—some no more than shacks, really—jammed one against the other with jerry-rigged electrical and power supplies. Imagine streets often paved with dirt and some now and then coated with waste that oozed up from broken sewer pipes. No malls, no parks, no beauty parlors, no coffee shops, and no friendly cops on the beat to protect you—for protecting us was the lowest priority, and residents knew better than to even call for help. This was the Soweto I knew as a girl and a teen in the 1980s. There were certainly nicer areas of Soweto such as Dube and Diepkloof Extension, but remember, I’m using the word nicer
in the context of apartheid.
In 1976, two years after I was born, Soweto began to bleed, literally. Outraged when the government decreed that Black students would now be taught in Afrikaans—the language of apartheid—rather than in Zulu, Sotho, or one of the other indigenous tongues, students rallied in the streets. As many as twenty thousand left their classrooms to march, and this time, the police rushed to our aid
armed with dogs, automatic rifles, and armored cars. No one knows exactly how many people were killed, but the estimates