Your client is resistant to change. How can you use mindfulness strategies to guide them through?

I help people towards the discovery of who they rather than who they have become which is at the heart of most conflicts! A lot of decisions are taken at the unconscious level which can be up 95% and therefore being mindful is a key issue as our identities are beyond our experiences! Thanks

I initiate discussions about resistance at the start of every coaching session to prepare my clients for the challenges they may face. It's important to recognize that resistance is a natural part of personal growth and often arises when stepping beyond familiar boundaries. It can manifest in various forms, yet it's always something that can be addressed and overcome. Fundamentally, resistance is rooted in fear. However, even the most daunting fears can be navigated and transformed with the correct approach and strategies.

When I notice a client's resistance to change, I believe it's essential to acknowledge it without judgment. By encouraging mindfulness, clients can observe their resistance patterns without criticism. I guide them to become aware of their thoughts and emotions related to change, similar to noticing their breath during meditation. This self-awareness creates a space between their feelings and actions, allowing them to choose a different response rather than reacting out of fear or habit. This approach fosters a compassionate and non-judgmental environment, empowering clients to embrace change more effectively.

I encourage the client to observe their thoughts and feelings without judgment. This mindful observation helps them recognize their resistance and connect with the underlying fears or concerns that are holding them back. By tuning into their emotions, they can better understand what's driving their hesitation and begin to address it with compassion. This can be achieved by doing meditation daily. It also provides a sense of calmness and they can focus on the concerns.

Identificar junto com o seu clientes suas crenças limitantes que o levam a resistência é importante para seu autoconhecimento e observação. Vale também ajudá-lo a perceber e conscientizar sobre seus comportamentos resistentes que o impedem de acompanhar a mudança necessária.

The mind's nature is to always negate... Practicing presence always lessens resistance and allows the person to acknowledge their capacity toove forward (from that point on )

Fear creates resistance, so your client may be focused on an unknown future or doubt what they haven't experienced yet. Present-moment focus can help them get grounded and re-centered on their goals. Help them clarify their goals and break them down into small, achievable steps. This provides a clear path forward and reduces overwhelm. Focus on identifying and celebrating small victories. These early wins build confidence and demonstrate progress, reinforcing their ability to change. By integrating mindfulness practices into coaching sessions, you can help your client navigate resistance, build resilience, and foster a positive mindset conducive to personal growth.

Se você pudesse contar, quantas horas por dia você estaria focado no que estava fazendo no dia, quantas horas estaria lembrando do passado e quantas horas estaria pensando no futuro? Chuto que 80% do nosso tempo é com pensamentos no passado ou futuro. Não existe uma bala de prata. Cada pessoa precisará de ações diferentes para conseguir ter atenção plena no presente. Mas, existe um item que vai estar nas ações de todas as pessoas: intenção. Ter essa clareza vai ajudar até mesmo a decidir se realmente vai ou não fazer o que estava pensando em fazer. E se decidir fazer, ficará mais fácil se manter focado na atividade, pois estará claro qual resultado você quer alcançar.

Las neurociencias demostraron que nuestro cerebro no es capaz del pensamiento negativo. Hagan esta prueba: si les digo NO piensen en un elefante, verán que su cerebro inmediatamente genera la representación mental de un elefante! Por eso, jamás propongo a mis Coachees que NO piensen en el pasado ó que NO proyecten hacia el futuro. Al contrario, me ocupo de facilitarles instancias de concentración en el PRESENTE (lo que llamamos ubicuidad en el aquí y ahora). Utilizo recursos variados para acercarme a las preferencias de cada uno (musicoterapia, respiración diafragmática, ejercicios de corporalidad consciente, centramientos asistidos) y para que asocien la experiencia de "estar en el presente" como "placentera" en su memoria emocional.

Many times in life, change isn't something we choose. Feeling forced in a direction we didn't plan contributes to a sense of being out of control. It can also cause us to resist the change as we tell ourselves, "This isn't the way it should be." Mindfulness brings our attention to the present, rather than lamenting what "should" have been or agonizing over what might happen in the future. It helps us accept what is and take meaningful action within the reality we are given. It's important to note, acceptance does not mean condoning or agreeing with the situation. It simply means we use our energy to move forward rather than fighting against circumstances we can't change.

Acceptance without judgement is one of the greatest gifts I can offer an individual. But before I can accept others I must accept myself. Happiness, peace and contentment are all practiced skills. ~rln

Accepting what is and not wanting what is not. When people resist change, they are defending their existence, that they are seeking to change.

El mindfulness promueve una actitud de aceptación hacia las experiencias internas y externas. Aquí te cuento algunos de sus conceptos: 1. No-Juicio: observa los pensamientos y emociones sin calificarlos como buenos o malos, para tener comprensión más objetiva de la experiencia. 2. Observación desapegada: observa los fenómenos mentales y físicos sin identificarte con ellos, para mantener una perspectiva equilibrada y reducir la reactividad emocional. 3. Aceptación Radical: acepta las experiencias, incluidas las dolorosas, como parte de la vida, para evitar resistirse contra lo que es. Aceptar no significa resignarse, sino reconocer lo que está ocurriendo en el momento presente para permitir una respuesta más adaptativa.

I follow the work of existential folx such as Viktor Frankl and Irwin Yalom. Radical acceptance does not come easy, though it can greatly improve one's outlook on life by considering the possibilities of what can be.

Meditation always helps the person to observe their thoughts as they come and go (and their feelings as they rise and fall)... Hence, less resistance

I think the key to non attachment is to understand that who we are is not related to what we do at a core level. I see in myself and in the people I work with that when we get caught in the idea that I am what I do. it can be very hard to separate the two. Being able to witness the thoughts, feelings and beliefs from a third person perspective can help foster the ability to let go of attachment.

Yes, practicing gratitude daily shifts your focus from what you lack to what you have. This simple practice helps you see life with a new, positive outlook. You begin to appreciate even the small things, finding joy in everyday moments. Gratitude also strengthens your emotional resilience, making it easier to cope with change. I usually suggest my clients to try writing down three things they are thankful for each day. This small step can transform perspective and make embracing change a more positive experience.

D'après mon expérience, la gratitude est un outil puissant pour aider mes clients à voir au-delà de leurs challenges du moment et à ouvrir leurs perspectives, Il faut distinguer et combiner la gratitude envers soi (auto-gratitude, fêter des petites victoires, etc.) et la gratitude envers le reste (merci pour l'air que je respire, merci pour mon coeur qui bat, merci d'avoir un toit, merci d'avoir des enfants en bonne santé, merci d'avoir une femme aimante qui me soutient, etc.)

Compassionate inquiry creates a safe space where the client's experiences and emotions regarding their struggles and resistance to change is explored without judgement. Change is often complex and challenging and is important to communicate that it's OK to take the time they need to process new information that is coming through. This is likely to lead to increased self-awareness that could help them to consider new perspectives and reframe their attitudes to change.

Compassion for people you work with becomes far easier when we truly feel compassion and acceptance for our own journey. So much of what others experience can be a mirror into our own lives. By grounding our sense of compassion in the fact that we are all human, traversing this path of life and every person is doing what they can with what they have. It's our job as coaches to illustrate that it's ok to have these feelings and they can be shifted into positive fuel for their future.

I actually disagree with this premise. Probing questions, even gently, are subjective and can be triggering to some. By using trauma and culturally informed skills and modalities, we can elicit more deep rooted post-traumatic growth from our clients and have them tell their story and ask some clarifying questions only as needed.

I think it's very important to take note of the emotions involved as your clients resist. Is it fear? Is it guilt? Is it shame? Whatever it may be, I believe those must be addressed first so they can fully immerse themselves in the now. :)

Everyone has the potential to change. I avoid this world which is quite confusing from my point of view because most people keep living life beyond post-trauma periods and often get the wrong keys to move forward instead of pursuing their dreams with hope. When we wake up, the body system is fully recovered and recharged after a night. The previous cells died for giving birth to the newest ones. I'm afraid that most people have a pretty unbalanced lifestyle, wouldn't nurture with the right food, the right energy to move forward and keep having toxic relationships which affect the change of themselves. Everybody is evolving, few are fast, less are slow.

It is important to accept the ability (or inability) of the person to change. Acceptance allows the person's resistance to take place, and once it is observed and it is given it's place, it could be an opening for a change

You can’t change what you are not aware of. Creating awareness is the first step towards shift in resistance and mindset. What do they define as change? What’s their initial reaction to change? What are their inner narratives and beliefs around change? What are they fearful will happen with change? What is the value they are looking to protect under that fear? Layer by layer, step by step… I peel, discover, acknowledge, accept, then decide what’s the best path forward.

How do you see yourself moving through change? Or What advice would you be giving if you were giving advice to your close friend?