SGD English Final
SGD English Final
Bill Joukhadar
Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright 1996.Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
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Session
Forward 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 Orientation
Subject
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The essentials of a small group Growing upward and inward Growing outward and forward What happens in a small group meeting Leader qualities and skills Forming a new group Appendix 1 Progress Chart Appendix 2 Health Check Appendix 3 Evaluation Appendix 4 Network Update Appendix 5 Prayer of spiritual empowerment Additional Resources
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Forward
astoring at Maadi Community Church, Cairo, Egypt, was an amazing ride. My wildest dreams of what God would do in and through this ministry were exceeded. We saw thousands of lives impacted for Christ. On the way, my life, my beliefs, and my ideas about what it means to do church were reshaped forever.
I have always been committed to the necessity of small groups as a means of creating an environment for spiritual growth. After all, making a biblical, theological, practical and even sociological case for small groups is not much of a stretch. However, for many years of ministry I made the mistake of viewing small group ministry as just one important ministry of many. And because of that mistake, I spent years evaluating the health and dynamics of the church based primarily on weekend attendance. Five years of ministering alongside Bill Joukhadar at MCC radically changed my view. I came to understand that small group ministry is not just one of many programs but is an essential, foundational component of a churchs DNA. I also discovered that observing the health of small groups often offers a more accurate snapshot of the churchs health and vitality. When we first started working together, Bill asked, What would you think if people with limited time constraints chose to attend a small group rather than attend the weekend service in which you would be preaching? I recall that my response was defensive after all, the real acid test for any church is weekend attendance, right? Wrong! I have since come to appreciate the exciting dynamic that is created when a church is equally committed to celebration (weekend services) and cell (small groups). Churches that equally prioritise weekend services and small groups grow they grow upward, inward, outward and forward. Bill is a rare find. He is the most deeply committed, hardest working person I have ever had the privilege of serving alongside. He has committed his life to see the Great Commandment and the Great Commission fulfilled. I believe that Bill is one of todays leading specialists in biblical small group ministry. You will find his teaching anchored in Gods word. The success that God has blessed him with speaks for itself. I pray that as you read this testimony and begin to implement his Small Groups Church Plan in your church with love, patience and sensitivity, the Lord will give you the privilege of experiencing the ride of your life.
Larry Boss Senior Pastor Kamloops Alliance Church Canada (Former Senior Pastor, Maadi Community Church) [email protected]
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Session 1
Orientation
Introduction
Part of every church leaders vision should be to see his/her church grow according to biblical guidelines in the most effective and efficient ways. Positive growth measures both quality and quantity. Ephesians 4:16 makes it quite clear that the church the Lord delights to build through His people is one that is characterised by health and growth and is full of love. For this reason, diligent pastors often look for creative ways to bolster the growth of their churches through the collective ministry and missionary efforts of their paid staff and congregational team of volunteer ministers. In August 2000, at Maadi Community Church (MCC), Cairo, the Lord began to unveil a simple, yet powerful, universal plan for growing evangelical churches. This church growth plan is revolutionary to our present time and centres on the development of small groups. Small groups complement and complete the weekly large body worship celebration experience. A healthy church can be illustrated by a wholesome cake that is decorated with icing. The cake represents the place where community takes place in many small group settings and the icing represents the place where the whole church community gathers together, as one large body congregation, to celebrate the goodness of God. Note: It is the cake that supports the icing, and, while the cake can stand alone, the icing cannot. Even though the cake does not need the icing, both are desired since both parts combining together in a complimentary way is better. When this plan was implemented at MCC, amazing things happened. In just eight years, MCC grew in health, strength and size from 400 to 4,000 members, worshipping and fellowshipping in 413 small groups in the mother church, and five daughter churches that were formed. More noteworthy, 1,600 new believers came to Christ through these groups! An important part of the church plan was this training program which was established to teach, inspire and equip believers in the work of building the church. A biblical structure was also developed to steer, support and safeguard the work and the workers. Healthy small groups employ biblical principles that perform amazingly well in many denominational settings, many countries, and cultures. These principles have been trialled and proven successful in evangelical churches in a number of countries around the world. Throughout this training experience, you will be encouraged to freely shop for these universal and timeless principles. The small groups approach to building the church is not new its how God grew His church in New Testament times. And I believe it is how He wants to continue to grow His church around the world today.
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Benefits
From the time small groups were adopted by Maadi Community Church in Cairo, members of the church became increasingly inspired, equipped and engaged in church life at deeper levels and as a result reached out to their unchurched friends in practical ways with the love of Christ. Through an expanding network of friendship relationships, the Good News of Jesus Christ travelled freely and widely and resulted in many people coming to Christ. A large number of new believers were incorporated into the life of the church and were helped to grow in their faith and experienced joy and fruitfulness. As members of the church practised life in their small groups, the following encouraging growth signs were evidenced:
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Spiritual gifts were discovered and practised Commitment to personal godliness increased Members were transformed into servant-hearted ministers Purpose, satisfaction and fulfilment was experienced Practical needs were met Giving of time, talent and treasure to the work of God increased Differences of gender, personality, age, culture, experiences and gifts were seen as complementary strengths in the life of their groups and church Competition gave way to a spirit of co-operation and collaboration Unity resulted and helped to strengthen and safeguard the church from divisive influences and threats Christian life became purposeful, exciting, vibrant and fulfilling An attitude of duty gave way to an attitude of devotion Kingdom expansion was given highest priority in personal and church activities Many came to Christ, were incorporated into the church, baptised, discipled and given leadership opportunity The church enjoyed growth in health, size and love.
One of the primary purposes of small groups is the development of our relationship with the Lord and with each other. It is appropriate at this time to engage in an icebreaker activity that will help us to relax and reveal something about ourselves, which in turn will help us to relate to each other. Relaxing, revealing and relating is what needs to take place for relationships to form and grow well. Every person in this training group has been grouped together into pairs. When you have been informed of the name of your pair-partner, you may sit together for the purpose of this exercise. Use the questionnaire on the following page to begin to get to know each other. Instructions During this time, please write down what you learn about your pair-partner
You will be allowed 5 minutes to ask all or any of the questions listed. After 10 minutes, we will regroup and you will be allowed 60 seconds to introduce your partner.
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6. Apart from saving you, share one amazing thing the Lord has done in your life.
Please examine the Small Groups Church Plan that is illustrated in Session 2 (page 17). Note: This plan is founded upon two great biblical passages of Scripture, the Great Commandment and the Great Commission. Read aloud Matthew 22:36-40 and 28:18-20
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Commitment questions
Are you willing to embrace the above commitments? Are you willing to do your best to perform them?
If your answer is yes, please sign your name below. Note: Your signature is simply a validation of the agreement made between you and the Lord. Taking this step permits the Holy Spirit to remind you of the six commitments you have made today. I understand the above stated commitments and agree to do my best to fulfil them.
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Final comments
Course fee: The fee that is asked of you covers the cost of the material you will receive during training. Learning: Primarily, our learning approach will be through simulation. Effective learning is best achieved through hands on practice. It is important to acknowledge the role of the Holy Spirit in this learning. 1 John 2:27 says, But you have received the Holy Spirit, and he lives within you, so you dont need anyone to teach you what is true. For the Spirit teaches you everything you need to know, and what he teaches is true it is not a lie. The Holy Spirit will use all members to help us discover and apply Gods truth so that personal transformation and growth of relationships can take place. Personal information: Please complete a small personal details form (for use by the members in this training group and church administration purposes). Serving opportunities: From the selection of serving opportunity cards placed before you, please choose at least one card from each of Sessions 3 to 7 choices and then record your selection in the relevant session columns of the Serving Opportunity Roster (over page). Now, place the laminated serving opportunity cards in the envelope given to you, and then hand the envelope to the training facilitator. He/she will use your service cards to compile a master record of the groups serving opportunities. Note: Your training facilitators will demonstrate each of the eight activities in Session 2 (from greeter to closing in prayer), enabling you to see what is expected of you in your chosen areas of service in Sessions 3 to 7. 5. Close with prayer: Using the following prayer suggestions, sit with your pair-partner and pray for one another before you leave (when you leave, please do so quietly): a. b. c. d. Pray for courage and strength to overcome fears and challenges. Ask the Lord to help you to do your best and to be positive and enthusiastic. Ask the Lord to prompt you to approach each session with a spirit of expectation. Ask the Lord to do all in His will for you through this training experience.
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Sessions
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Welcome Worship
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L/A
Witness (Outward)
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Leader/Apprentice
Word
Leader/Apprentice
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Case Study 1
Small group principles work in Australia (BCC)!
Small groups are the backbone of any church. Without them ministry cannot expand effectively. Jesus model of selecting just 12 people to invest 3 years into is a shock to those of us who are hoping for big Sunday attendances. It underscores the fact that big numbers that last in the macro events are attained through excellence in the micro gatherings. Get this method right and both church and Kingdom expansion is inevitable. If you want numerical growth with integrity you need to sit with Bill Joukhadar of Cellchurch Consultants International. Bill has the clearest understanding, the most realistic strategy and a solid biblical method to get you there that you can find. He is a theorist, a practitioner and a trainer. His church in Cairo expanded in 8 years from 400 hundred people to over 4,000! He started with a handful of small groups and finished with over 400 groups, lead by people who Bill personally trained. I cant imagine where you would find a more credentialed person than that! At the beginning of 2009, our church, Beachside Christian Church, had the opportunity to hire Bill Joukhadar as a consultant to our small group ministry. We jumped at the chance because of his outstanding track record. Bill has coached our staff, and now, just six months down the track, the results are beginning to become evident. Our staff is performing efficiently, we have doubled the number of trained small group leaders and by the end of the first year of this transition we will have at least a 30% expansion in our total number of groups operating. These groups minister to around a hundred new people. I really would encourage you to take the time to hear Bill. He has got something to say that will bless and grow your people in the depth of their relationships with God. This will in turn overflow into effectiveness and success in your community. He is not teaching a new, fast growth fad but a solid, time tested, biblical method that produces fruit that will last.
Wes and Jenny Jessop Beachside Christian Church Gold Coast, Australia (Former Senior Pastor) [email protected]
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Session 2
The essentials of a small group
In this session you will understand:
The vision Historical background supporting small groups Building the church: Builders and Foundation Growth dimensions DNA of healthy small groups Small Groups Church Plan.
The vision
It is critical to the life, health and success of a small group that every member knows and embraces the vision of his/her group. A biblically based vision is what helps to excite and inspire his/her members to want to engage together in group life with one mind, heart and purpose. Our small groups vision is as follows: Establish expanding networks of small groups in the church that will effectively Equip Gods people to do his work, and build up the church so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love (Ephesians 4:12, 16).
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Foundation
The Great Commandment and the Great Commission combine to form a perfect foundation for the building of Gods church. While the Great Commandment expresses Gods eternal purpose for creating mankind (to love), the Great Commission expresses Gods temporal purpose of the church on earth (to make disciples).
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Sponsoring members 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.
Sponsoring members
Unchurched friends
(Continue your prayer with the following) Father, we invite you to use our group to save our friends. Develop in us a deep concern for them, and prompt us to pray consistently for their salvation. Please help us to be creative and bold in our outreach efforts, believing in your promise that The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and wonderful results. Amen (James 5:16).
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As unchurched friends give their lives to Christ, small groups provide ideal environments for them to be accepted as they are, loved and nurtured in their faith through Christian fellowship and receive one-on-one discipleship support through other group members. Small groups also provide safe places for new believers to discover and practise their spiritual gifts. Diligent small group pastors look to draw out the potential of Christ-likeness and leadership in every believer in the group, encouraging their members to grow through simple acts of service in the life of the group and the wider church. One of the objectives of small groups is to raise up members to lead through voluntary service, hoping that one day they will pastor other groups thus contributing to the ongoing work of building and expanding Gods church. In the small groups context, teaching takes place by the Holy Spirit speaking through each member, through guided Bible-based discussions. Group members should be encouraged to openly express their thoughts, feelings and beliefs without fear of criticism or rejection. Open sharing is vital to the spiritual growth and leadership development of the members. Dont muzzle your members from freely expressing themselves. At all times, be sure to express a warm and sincere thank you to those who exercise leadership in various forms in the life of your group. Your expression of thanks should be extended to them for their willingness to share and serve. Impress upon them that progress cannot be achieved without participation. While participation is expected, perfection is not!
Growth dimensions
Establishing a small group community upon the foundation of the Great Commandment and Great Commission should result in balanced growth in four critical dimensions:
What?
Upward Inward
Love God Love each other Love unchurched friends
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Praise, prayer Obedience to Gods Word Accept Respect Care Prayer Social events Meet needs Share Gospel Equip Release Support
Outward
Forward
Make disciples
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10. Open groups remain welcoming and inclusive of newcomers. 11. Discussion and application: Facilitate discussions that motivate life application and transformation. 12. Grace is the virtue that accepts people as they are. 13. Church celebration (worship services): Commitment to engage in, and serve at, worship services is essential for personal and church growth. 14. Outreaching unchurched friends is a top priority.
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Q1: What caught your attention in this weeks session that has impacted you? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q2: Is there anything you dont understand? If you could ask the author or the Lord about this weeks session, what might be your question(s)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q3: What is a personal application for your life (be specific)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Record principles you discovered in this session that you consider worth applying to your life and leadership. _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ ____
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Session 3
Growing upward and inward
In this session you will understand:
How to develop your personal and groups upward life How to develop your personal and groups inward life The four stages of small group life.
In order for group members to embody the commission of upward and inward growth, small group pastors must first embody the commission themselves!
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Occasionally, devote a session to thanksgiving, praise and prayer. Appoint a prayer coordinator to keep a prayer journal for the group. Brief visits to the homes of your members, asking and praying for needs. Encourage members to become regular self-feeders, able to read, understand and apply Scripture in their lives, using good Bible-based study guides.
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Watch out for co-dependency. If you find fulfilment from being needed by others, and not from serving God, then your leadership will fail. Likewise, if members are looking to the group to satisfy their personal needs, and not to the Lord, they too will be disappointed. The Lord is the only One who is able to satisfy our needs (Matthew 6:33).
10. Beware of becoming an oversized group. For the sake of intimacy, the group should consist of no more than 12 people. Keep in mind the small groups health principle: As size increases, intimacy decreases.
This stage is exciting. People are getting to know each other and are enjoying it. Communication is at a surface level. It will remain at this level until members feel that the group environment is safe and trustworthy enough to go deeper. Dont be satisfied to remain at this level. For maturity and fruitfulness to result, the group must grow deeper. Leadership initiatives: a. b. c. d. Establish common good ground rules. Ensure that everyone knows and has accepted the groups vision. Aim for balanced growth. Delegate leadership roles as soon as possible.
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In this stage, personality and value differences can create tension. People are getting to know each other better and may struggle in the process. You must remind yourself that this is just a passing phase this is to be expected. Strong and healthy groups learn to patiently and prayerfully work through this phase and still love each other. Remember: You can avoid hurtful situations generated by gossip by following these biblical principles drawn from Matthew 18:15-17: a. If someone has offended you, dont tell everyone! Speak only to that person with the aim of working towards mutual understanding and reconciliation. If the person refuses to acknowledge they have wronged you, and continues to work against you, bring in a godly witness who can help resolve the crisis and restore peace. If the person still refuses to listen and their conduct is damaging the life of the group, or the wider church, then take the matter to your coach (more about coaches later).
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Leadership initiatives: a. Help group members to understand that tension is a normal experience in developing genuine relationships. Do not ignore the storm or try to control it. Pray and deal with it honestly. If necessary, meet privately with those engaged in the conflict (Matthew 18:1517). Help people value and accept their differences of personality, culture, experiences, opinions and beliefs. Keep the group engaged in reaching in and reaching out in love activities.
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At this point, members will have worked through their differences and are learning to love and appreciate each other. People are letting down their masks and are becoming more accountable to one another. A sense of united vision moves the group forward. Leadership initiatives: a. b. c. Reinforce the vision of the group through regular outreach activities. Encourage members to remain engaged in group and wider church ministry roles. Enthuse the group about multiplication.
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This happens when a group becomes a team. Members are ministering to one another and to unchurched friends. They are excited about raising-up new leaders and birthing/forming new groups. For a group to remain intimate and effective you must take steps to multiply the group. If you dont, the group will, more often than not, stagnate and die. Leadership initiatives: a. Try to plan social activities that are appealing and satisfying to your unchurched friends. Continue developing emerging leaders. Encourage members to step out of their comfort zones, and, by faith, form new groups.
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Jesus says, Anyone who is welcoming you is welcoming me, and anyone who welcomes me is welcoming the Father who sent me (Matthew 11:40). 1. 2. 3. 4. Arrive at the church 10-15 minutes prior to the commencement of the worship service. Look around for someone who is new to you. Approach that person; warmly greet them and introduce yourself in a friendly manner. If they respond with openness and warmth, make inquiries about them (where they live, family, occupation, how long have they been attending the church, etc?). Thank them for speaking with you and, if newcomers to the church, invite them to call on you if you can help them with any information about the church. Privately thank the Lord for the person you met and complete the personal evaluation below to share the experience next week with others in your training group.
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Q1: What caught your attention in this weeks session that has impacted you? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q2: Is there anything you dont understand? If you could ask the author or the Lord about this weeks session, what might be your question(s)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q3: What is a personal application for your life (be specific)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Record principles you discovered in this session that you consider worth applying to your life and leadership. _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ ____
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Dominic Beasant Teacher and resident in the UK (Formerly, Assistant Director of Small Groups, Maadi Community Church) [email protected]
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Session 4
Growing outward and forward
In this session you will understand:
How to develop your personal and groups outward life How to develop your personal and groups forward life Strategies for forming new groups.
The net fishing approach to evangelism can be a challenge. Reaching out to unchurched friends is not something that comes naturally to everyone. You can expect opposition from satan and apathy, negativity and resistance from some of the members in your group. To succeed in the Great Commission we must place the needs of others before our own (Philippians 2:4-8). Some of the members in your group may need a gentle prod to help them step past their fears and ignorance, so they may taste the satisfying fruit that comes from this exciting work. Blessings will flow as your group practises simple acts of Christ-like love with unchurched friends. Maintaining an outward focus also lessens the perceived enormity and urgency of personal needs and concerns, allowing members to see their situation from a better perspective. Your group will become strong, united and purposeful.
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The Lord did not command us to make believers (spiritual babies). The Great Commission clearly mandates us to make disciples maturing followers of Jesus Christ. Helping believers to grow in Christ-like maturity is a life-long process. We need to encourage each other to keep moving forward in our faith journey by growing in our discipleship. Our part in making disciples involves: role modelling, teaching and coaching one another in our spiritual walk. Discipleship is a personal and small group family matter!
Offering their homes as venues for the group Greeting people at the door Leading an icebreaker Opening or closing in prayer Sharing a personal devotion Providing snacks Leading worshipful singing Facilitating the discussion Coordinating prayer Organising social/outreach events Evaluating the meeting Tidying up afterwards Following-up absentees through their pair-partnerships Serve in other areas of service that will strengthen the life and purpose of the group.
Take risks
Delegating is a risky business and at times, mistakes will happen. You need to keep in mind: We all make many mistakes (James 3:2). Create a safe and friendly environment that allows for people to fail as they attempt new areas of service. The skill for you to learn is helping your members stretch a little further through participating in some area of service while understanding that making mistakes is a normal part of learning and growing. This is what we call failing forward.
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In Christ, we are not failures. However, as we stretch to grow a little more, there will be, at times, failed outcomes. Failed outcomes provide us with opportunities to learn new things and grow in our discipleship. (Recommended reading: Failing Forward by John C. Maxwell.)
How to help other members develop their forward lives Disciple new believers
Do not assume that all the members in your group know the basics of the Christian faith and are regularly praying and reading Gods Word. We can encourage young believers in their walk with Christ through one-on-one discipleship, outside of regular group meeting times. To help in this, a one-on-one 14 lesson basic level discipleship work book entitled Growing Up into His Likeness is recommended. This book is ideal, even if one-on-one coaching support is not available. (For more details, see Additional Resources, page 73.)
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Addition
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Multiplication
Year
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1,000 led to Christ each day, for one year, but not discipled 365,000 1,825,000 3,650,000 5,475,000 7,300,000 9,125,000 10,950,000 12,045,000
Disciple reproducing oneself each year 2 32 1,024 32,768 1,048,576 33,554,432 1,073,741,824 8,589,934,592
Although the speed of multiplication starts off slowly, in the long term it is clearly seen as the best option for effective and efficient worldwide evangelism. * The worlds population (7 billion people) would be covered in 33 years when discipling through the multiplication approach.
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Telephone encouragement
Let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of His coming back is drawing near (Hebrews 10:25).
1. Consider two people in your church who know you, who you can contact by telephone to encourage. 2. Telephone them at an appropriate time, and with sensitivity Inquire about his/her well being (listen carefully) Express sincere words of appreciation and love Ask if there is anything you can pray for (take the initiative and ask if you can pray now on the phone for him/her) Thank them for allowing you to take some of their time.
Caution: Dont trap them on the phone limit your call to about 5-7 minutes. 3. Privately thank the Lord for those you ministered to and complete the personal evaluation below to share the experience next week with others in your training group.
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Q1: What caught your attention in this weeks session that has impacted you? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q2: Is there anything you dont understand? If you could ask the author or the Lord about this weeks session, what might be your question(s)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q3: What is a personal application for your life (be specific)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Record principles you discovered in this session that you consider worth applying to your life and leadership. _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ ____
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Emiola and Bola Oladimeji Senior Pastor Dominion Impact Church Lagos, Nigeria [email protected]
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Session 5
What happens in a small group meeting
By the end of this session you should understand:
What a small group meeting should look like WELCOME: How to start a meeting WORSHIP: The importance of focusing on Jesus WORD: How to facilitate Bible-based discussions WITNESS: Maintaining an outward focus.
COMPONENT
Inward WELCOME (15 min)
FOCUS
Build honest and loving relationships
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Us to us
Upward
Re-surrender and recommit to Jesus Discussion and application (Discipleship) Unsaved friends (Our mission)
Us to God
Forward
God to us
Outward
God through us
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This growth dimension focuses on the work of building honest and loving relationships with those in your group. Success in this endeavour requires us to be intentional and proactive in doing whatever needs to be done on our part to make others in our group feel worthy, accepted, loved and welcome. This is a self-less work that, at times, demands personal sacrifice. Healthy groups are made up of members who adopt and practise a welcoming presence. Saying the words, You are welcome doesnt go far enough in convincing people they are welcome in your group. Having a welcoming presence translates into doing whatever it takes to make people feel glad to be in the group and motivates them to want to share in the life of the group, feeling they belong and want to have ownership. Commencing group session times with good icebreakers can help the members to focus on each other and engage together as one group for learning and sharing, and deepening of relationships. Note: Be sure to choose simple and safe icebreakers that will engage everyone in the group in an honest, fun and friendly manner.
Only one element is needed in your group to make it satisfying: the presence of Jesus. This growth dimension helps us to focus on Him and on expressing our heartfelt love for God. There are many ways of doing this. Whatever way is chosen, it must be honest, sincere and personal. Although expressed in the context of a small group, worship is a personal experience, and every person should be encouraged to express his/her worship to the Lord in his/her way. A meaningful time of worship should help members sense the presence and pleasure of the Lord. Consider the following suggestions: 1. Focus your heart and mind on the Lord before the meeting, re-surrender your life to Him and invite Him to fill your life with His Spirit. Listen quietly for the Lords voice: 3. He may want to use you in a particular way in the group. He may want to show you how His Spirit is ministering to others in the group. He may want to teach you something new.
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Dont let the focus of worship be on songs, group lessons or peoples needs. In our worship, the focus must be on Jesus.
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The focus of this growth dimension is on listening to what God has to say, through His inspired Word. Whenever you look into Gods Word, expect Him to speak to you. In small groups, discovering more of Gods truth is best accomplished through the facilitation of Bible-based discussions. The facilitator should not teach, but guide a free and honest discussion among the members concerning the passage of Scripture in question. The Holy Spirit is our Teacher (1 John 2:27) and can speak through each person in the group, bringing out whatever He wants to say. Many people learn by thinking out loud, so encourage your members to share their thoughts freely by asking open-ended questions. Inspire as much participation by everyone as possible.
What caught your attention in this weeks session that has impacted you? Is there anything you dont understand? If you could ask the author or the Lord about this weeks session, what might be your question(s)? What is a personal application for your life (be specific)?
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Invite each person to share what stands out (3a). Facilitate an open discussion. Invite each person to share his/her questions/thoughts from the passage (3b). Note: Agreed answers must be supported by Scripture. At times, there may not be an immediate answer. Invite each person to share personal applications (3c). Ask them to be as specific as they can.
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Discussion skills
Prepare
Read the relevant passage of Scripture beforehand. Pray about the verse/s and ask the Lord for guidance in facilitating the suggested open-ended questions above.
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1. 2. 3. Ask others what they think before you share. Dont plan what youre going to say while others are talking. Express appreciation for every answer given.
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Begin and end the discussion on time. Be prepared to close the discussion and summarise so the group can move on.
5. Never use religious jargon, especially with the unchurched and new believers.
This growth dimension focuses on our unsaved friends it considers creative ways the Lord can use us to draw them to His saving grace and into the life of our church. Maintaining an outward focus will be a constant battle as satan will do his best to hinder you and your members in this endeavour. In the regular meeting time of the group, be sure to allow time for: Follow-up news of friends on the Blessing List and pray for them. Discussion, planning and implementation of social-outreach events aimed at engaging Blessing List friends.
As already mentioned cast the vision for reaching out to unsaved friends from the very beginning of the life of the group and then regularly practise reaching out to them.
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Additional suggestions
Seating
Seating is important at group session times. The most important thing to know about correct seating is that everyone should be able to see each other from a comfortable seating position, without having to lean forward or backward. A circle seating arrangement works best if you have ample seating space. Limit 3-seater sofas to two people, as it helps to improve member comfort and visibility. The person in the middle may feel hemmed-in and may not be able to see some of the members. Where necessary, move sofas, chairs and cushions into place. (Rearrange seating at the conclusion of each meeting.)
Snack time
A time of refreshment at the beginning, in the middle, or at the end of your meeting is an important part of the session. This time serves as an unscripted, informal time for fellowship, shared around simple food where members can engage in conversation. Twenty to thirty minutes is a reasonable amount of time to allow for this activity.
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Small gift
Think of ways to encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24).
1. Consider an inexpensive, practical gift you can give to someone at the worship service on Sunday (movie ticket/coffee voucher, etc.). 2. Ask the Holy Spirit to prompt your attention to a person at the worship service you plan to attend. 3. Come to church with the gift and be ready for the Holy Spirit to direct your attention to someone to receive your gift. 4. Ask a friend to deliver your gift to the person without revealing your identity. Giving anonymously ensures that the Lord receives the glory, and you will be blessed by Him.) 5. Personally give thanks to the Lord for giving you the ability to give and for the person who received your gift. 6. Complete the personal evaluation below for sharing with others in next weeks training session.
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Q1: What caught your attention in this weeks session that has impacted you? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q2: Is there anything you dont understand? If you could ask the author or the Lord about this weeks session, what might be your question(s)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q3: What is a personal application for your life (be specific)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Record principles you discovered in this session that you consider worth applying to your life and leadership. _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ ____
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Open, informal and encouraging atmosphere People friendly Jesus focused Prayer and fellowship Good suggestions for evangelising Opportunity to share experiences and testimony Supporting one another against spiritual warfare Ideal fellowship context for men and women with differing thoughts.
Small groups are alive and well at Helsinki. They serve the will of God and rely completely upon His power.
Monica Cleve Helsinki, Finland (Former member of Maadi Community Church) [email protected]
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Session 6
Leader qualities and skills
By the end of this session you should understand:
Anyone can share in leading a small group Jesus view on leadership Key qualities of a leader
His research showed that who you are as a leader matters more than what you can do.
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Paul underscored the Lords view on leadership with these words: Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness (Philippians 2:5-7 NRSV). Small group leadership is about being a humble servant, not an authoritative head. If true leadership is about service, then every member of a small group can share in the leadership of their group. Small group members should see themselves as developing leaders.
A genuine heart for God and people (Matthew 22:37-39; 1 Corinthians 13:1-7) Humility (Philippians 2:5-7) A commitment to serve the Lord and group members sacrificially (Luke 9:23) A firm trust in the authority of the Word of God (John 8:31) Empowered by the Holy Spirit (Acts 1:8) Prayerful (1 Thessalonians 5:17-18) Has a life that reflects the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) Has a positive attitude and is totally dependent on God for wisdom and strength (Philippians 4:13) Pursues holiness (1 Thessalonians 4:3-7) Regularly encourages his/her members (Hebrews 10:25) Disciplined and diligent to do what is necessary to foster growth (1 Corinthians 9:2427) Has a heart for witnessing (Matthew 28:18-20) Is FAST enough:
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Faithful (Luke 16:10) Available (2 Timothy 4:2) Servant-hearted (Mark 10:42-45) Teachable (Proverbs 9:8-10)
14. Although weak, is willing to say yes to the Lord (2 Corinthians 12:9) Weakness is not a disqualification from godly service: Paul said, If I must boast, I would rather boast about the things that show how weak I am (2 Corinthians 11:30); and Jesus said, My power works best in your weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9a). Willingness is mandatory for godly service: Isaiah said, Then I heard the Lord asking, Whom should I send as a messenger to my people? Who will go for us? And I said, Lord, Ill go! Send me (Isaiah 6:8).
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Character of a leader
Character is the most important quality of servant-leaders. 1 Timothy 3:1-7 lists qualities of a pastor. Notice that of the fifteen qualities listed, only one deals with something he/she does: being able to teach. All the other attributes deal with the pastors character. Thus, a leaders character is more important than his/her skill. God is more concerned about who we are than what we do. Why do some Christian leaders fail in their ministry? Sadly, they lack boundaries for appropriate and inappropriate behaviour. Well consider just three character areas:
Sexual purity
Some leaders fail in the area of sexual purity, not because of ignorance of what the Bible teaches, but because of failure to place adequate boundaries in their lives to safeguard them from sin. Consider the following guidelines for safe-guarding sexual purity: a. b. c. Never visit alone the home of someone of the opposite sex when they are alone. Maintain complete purity in all counselling (check your thoughts). Guard carefully the nature of books, music, TV programs, internet sites, etc., that influence your life. Innuendos, crude sexual humour and vulgar jokes are unacceptable for a leader. Paul told Timothy to set an example for believers in speech (1 Timothy 4:12).
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Financial integrity
The way we handle money indicates how disciplined we are in general. Consider these guidelines for financial integrity: a. b. c. Pay your bills on or before time. Where possible, stay out of debt. Practise tithing and sacrificial giving. God says, It is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35).
Spiritual integrity
Spiritual integrity means we are careful to live as imitators of Christ, not impersonators. We should do our best to practise God-given principles for daily living and encourage others in their walk. This means we should be devoted to prayer, Gods Word, consistent in living out our faith, loving and forgiving others to the best of our ability, in His strength. Furthermore, it means we are honest with ourselves in our areas of weakness and where we need improvement (we can call these God at work areas in our lives). Our lives must be consistent with the calling we have received. Transparent living is essential and powerful in leadership. We can lead only up to where we are in our walk with the Lord. We must always be honest and upfront before the Lord and others about our mistakes. We must be real.
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Attitude
The attitude of a leader is always more important than his/her aptitude. Attitude is a choice! The attitude we have is the attitude we have chosen.
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Noah got drunk Abraham was too old Jacob was a liar Moses was slow of speech and tongue Gideon and Thomas both doubted God Samson was a womaniser Naomi was a widow David was too small for King Sauls armour David had an affair Saul, David and Moses were murderers Elijah and Jeremiah became depressed and suicidal Hoseas wife was a prostitute Amos only training was in the school of fig-tree pruning Jonah ran from God Peter denied knowing Jesus three times Martha was a worrier Lazarus was dead Paul persecuted the church.
Think about it: The Lord knows what Hes doing. He has chosen to work through human agents like you and me. He never makes mistakes, and, youre always in good company. The question that must be answered: Will you allow the Lord to work through you? Suggestion: If you are struggling with your self-image or have any doubts as to who you are in Christ, then look carefully at the extra reading section in this session.
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The dominant character The side tracker The one who never speaks
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The one who says too much The one who always seems to offer the wrong answer The one who is over-apologetic The one who displays a fault-finding spirit The one who is oversensitive to minor correction The fearful The prideful The intellectual The negative type The one who arrives late The one who leaves late The attention seeker The loner The mumbler The lazy-bones.
Relax. Its unlikely the Lord will choose all the above interesting characters for your group
Extra reading
How is your self-image?
The way we think about ourselves (our self-image) has a big influence on the way we relate to others. If we feel good about ourselves our relationship with others is usually good. But, if we feel bad about ourselves we often react negatively towards others. Our self-image is built up, among other things, by our looks, personality, attitudes, abilities and perception of what others think of us. Our self-image is developed as the awareness of our own identity begins in early childhood, and, is the result of accepting the values other people place on our appearance, abilities, performance and the environment in which this takes place. A negative self-image is produced in a child who is criticised, put down in front of others, made to feel unwanted or a nuisance, or who feels insecure in the family. Lack of discipline, indulgence in place of love and broken homes are major contributors.
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Once a negative image is firmly implanted, lifes experiences tend to be viewed from a negative standpoint. People tend to compensate for their feelings of lack of self-worth in ways that make small group facilitation challenging, such as: a. b. c. d. e. f. g. h. Being quiet and unwilling to contribute to the discussion Being apologetic about everything they say or do Being over-sensitive to minor criticism Displaying a fault-finding spirit Being moody Having a better than others attitude Being apprehensive about change Attention-seeking.
In most cases a poor self-image can be repaired with loving tender care and much affirmation, but remember that a lifetime of negative thinking takes prayer, patience, perseverance, hard work, and time to be changed. The foundation of a healthy self-image is the acceptance of the truth that we are wonderfully made by God in His likeness (Genesis 1:27).
I am the salt of the earth (Matthew 5:13) I am the light of the world (Matthew 5:14) I am a child of God and a part of His family (John 1:12, Romans 8:16) I am Christs friend (John 15:15) I am a joint-heir with Christ sharing His inheritance with Him (Romans 8:17) I am a temple of God His Spirit dwells in me (1 Corinthians 3:16; 6:19) I am a new creation/new person (2 Corinthians 5:17) I am a saint (Ephesians 1:1, 1 Corinthians 1:2; Ephesians 1:1; Philippians 1:1; Colossians 1:2) I am Gods workmanship, created anew in Christ Jesus, so that I can do the things He planned for me long ago (Ephesians 2:10) I am a citizen of heaven, and seated there now (Philippians 3:20, Ephesians 2:6) I am chosen of God, holy and dearly loved (Colossians 3:12) I am one of Gods living stones being built up as a spiritual house (1 Peter 2:5) I am part of a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for Gods own possession to proclaim His goodness (1 Peter 2:9-10) I am born of God, and the evil one (satan) cannot touch me (1 John 5:18).
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For I am not ashamed of this Good News about Christ. It is the power of God at work, saving everyone who believes (Romans 1:16).
1. Carefully read several times the Gospel tract Steps to Peace with God, or an equivalent. 2. Ask the Holy Spirit to prompt your mind with a close friend you know, or suspect, is not a Christian and who may be open to hearing/reading the Good News about Jesus. 3. When this happens, make an appointment to meet with your friend for 30-60 minutes at a place that is free of distractions. (Rely on the Holy Spirit for His perfect timing.) 4. Explain that because you care for them, there is some important news you would like to share with him/her. At this point you need to decide to either take them through the Steps to Peace with God tract or present them with the tract, asking them to read through it as soon as possible when they are not distracted. Assure them you will not bother them any further about this and you would be happy to answer any questions they would like to ask you. Caution: Dont jeopardise your friendship by pressuring them in any way. 5. Complete the following personal evaluation for sharing with others in your group next week.
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Summary: Session 6
Leader qualities and skills
Q1: What caught your attention in this weeks session that has impacted you? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q2: Is there anything you dont understand? If you could ask the author or the Lord about this weeks session, what might be your question(s)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q3: What is a personal application for your life (be specific)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Record principles you discovered in this session that you consider worth applying to your life and leadership. _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ ____
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Kamal and Lavinia Mounir Founding Directors Eastern Europe Gateway, Romania www.eegateway.org (Former Zone Director of Small Groups, MCC) [email protected]
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Session 7
Forming a new group
By the end of this session you should understand:
Preparations needed to form a new group Importance of setting goals Importance of accountability, evaluation and structure.
Preparation for forming a new group should not be a rushed affair. Prayer is the place to begin if good health, maturity and fruitfulness are desired for the group. Careful consideration of the following will help to ensure a strong and confident start in this new venture. Leadership Team: A leadership team, comprising of the pastor of the group, apprentice, coach, small groups director and the Holy Spirit, all working in collaboration with one another, should be established before the group is formally recognised by your church. Coach: Your coach is like a good parent. Having successfully led and multiplied small groups, he/she will be a source of wisdom and encouragement to you throughout the life of the group. Your coach will meet regularly with you, supporting you in your leadership development and helping you to keep your group on track. Apprentice: You should see the apprentice as your successor, a close friend in whom you can trust to support you in this new venture. Ideally, this person should be available to meet with you each week to discuss, pray and tackle the challenges of your group. This time should be seen as an investment, not an expense.
T E R S
Coach
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Each small group pastor and apprentice should prayerfully consider whom to personally invite to join their group. Avoid the temptation to quickly fill up your group with random invitations. Experience shows that people with similar backgrounds and interests form the most effective small groups. More often than not, members discover that their circles of unchurched friends overlap (e.g. squash, tennis, fishing, dancing). As a result, outreach happens naturally as these friends experience a saturation of Gods love through constant prayer and loving contacts. Having decided on the particular group of people, you should share the small groups vision with them in an honest, clear and enthusiastic manner. Help them to understand that the purpose of your group is: Living In Fellowship to Evangelise (life). Producing an attractive invitation, containing essential details, is helpful in stirring interest and attracting members. Placing a written invitation in their hands that has been well thought out will help persuade them to say yes to coming to your group. Be excited and expectant about what the Lord will do in and through those in your group. Enthusiasm is infectious. Venue: Carefully decide on a suitable venue as it sets the tone for what happens. Meeting in private homes helps members to relax, refresh and build relationships. Attention to detail will help your members feel more confident. The pastor of the group should ensure that the venue is properly set up for the meeting and everything necessary is in place. The venue should, where possible: a. b. c. d. Be clean and tidy. Have good lighting. Be warm in winter and cool in summer. Have chairs that can be easily moved into a circle. Create an intimate atmosphere by keeping the circle no wider than 3 meters in diameter; and permit members to sit on the floor or rest on cushions if preferred. Have food and drink already set out for the snack break.
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Note: Avoid noisy households or other venues where distractions are allowed to interfere with the meeting. Ground rules: When the group meets for the first time, its important to establish ground rules that will govern and safeguard the life of the group a. Ask people to be honest with each other. There can be no deep relationship without honest sharing. Some people may feel threatened by too much disclosure and it may take quite some time before they can be confident enough to disclose deep feelings. Create a safe and secure environment for transparent and confidential sharing. Request that there be no negative criticism of people inside and outside of the group. The group must never be allowed to degenerate into a gossip club. Things shared in confidence must not go outside the group. Consider adopting the following suggested covenant statements. They can serve Page 62
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you well and safeguard your group by spelling out in clear terms what is and what is not acceptable in the life of your group. Stress that a where possible clause is applicable to each statement
Attend the group as regularly as you can Show up on time Participate in group discussions Be as real as you can Be as honest as you can Be patient and accepting of one another Be forgiving The hosting of the group in different homes Share and lead in the various parts of the life of the group Reach out to unchurched friends with Gods love The groups eventual multiplication Etc.
At this time, delegate as many group tasks as possible. Warmly invite, but dont force anyone to do anything. Some people are slow to start. Rely on the Lord to motivate people into action. Commencement date: Decide on the time and day of the week for regular meetings and when to commence the group. Meeting weekly is better than every two weeks, or monthly. This strengthens member attendance and builds consistent momentum in the life of the group.
Setting goals
Healthy groups are goal-oriented groups. The goal is net-work evangelism that results in multiplication. Goals challenge our present best, stretching us a little more to make us a lot better. Even from the very beginning, pray with your coach and apprentice for a tentative date to multiply the group. Ask the Lord to prepare those in your group for this outcome. The Lord is about growing His church through multiplication. As your group progresses, you may find that you will need to move the multiplication date forward or backward, depending on how the Holy Spirit is leading. The purpose of setting goals is simply to help motivate your group to be constantly stretching in the four growth dimensions. Setting goals also helps to evaluate the progress your group is making. Everyone in the group should take part in setting the goals for the group. Then, with sensitivity, constantly remind group members of the goals. Remember: Whenever we give our best, the Lord will give the increase.
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Small group pastors are required to prepare and submit a Progress Chart to their coach each month (refer to Appendix 1). Through the information provided on this form, the pastor, apprentice and coach can easily track member attendance, member service involvement, outreach initiatives and results, and the groups readiness for multiplication. Each month, coaches are responsible for reporting attendance figures and the state of health of the groups under their care to the small groups director, thus making it possible for the leadership of the wider church to keep in view an accurate big picture of all God is doing within the life of the church. Wise decisions can be made when the real state of things are known.
Health Check
The Health Check report is useful in helping pastors evaluate their spiritual health, and the health of their groups. At the start of the life of the group, pastors should complete this report, and continue this practice every month until the health check indicators shows they are in a state of good health. Thereafter, health checks should be conducted every three months. This report is to be viewed by their coach (refer to Appendix 2).
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Evaluation
Every member of a small group is invited to share in the responsibility of assessing the health of their group. They should be asked to complete a simple evaluation report (refer to Appendix 3). This form can serve as an objective health indicator, assisting the pastor of the group to have answers to the following questions:
Are the needs of the members being met? Are members enjoying life within the group? Are members transforming into the likeness of Christ? Do members understand that the vision of the group is to reach out to unchurched friends? Is the group open to welcoming unchurched friends? Are there any shortcomings in the leadership, methods and content of the groups life? Can the life of the group be improved and strengthened in any particular way?
Health checks and personal evaluations are valuable and vital to the life and success of your group. Dont be threatened by them. If you use them well, they will serve you well. Feedback obtained from these initiatives can guide the senior pastor and small groups pastors in your church to make necessary adjustments and corrections in leadership where needed, ensuring at all times the churchs community of small groups are positioned well for growth in love, maturity and fruitfulness.
Structure
Appropriate structure is necessary for growth and development. You may encounter some resistance from your members concerning this in the operation of your group. Fear of containment, conformity and control may be legitimate concerns behind any resistance to fall into line with leadership in the management and development of small groups. Such resistance should be approached with sensitivity, loving care and prayer. Help those who resist understand that structure is as crucial to the life of small groups, and the church, as carefully laid railway lines are to the safe and efficient movement of locomotives and carriages. Network Update is a form that aids small group coaches in support of the growth and expansion of their groups (Refer to Appendix 4). Its important we dont get hung up on structure. Structure is there to support and safeguard us as we endeavour to stay on track in our spiritual journey.
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Q1: What caught your attention in this weeks session that has impacted you? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q2: Is there anything you dont understand? If you could ask the author or the Lord about this weeks session, what might be your question(s)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Q3: What is a personal application for your life (be specific)? ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________
Record principles you discovered in this session that you consider worth applying to your life and leadership. _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ ____
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Appendix 1
Progress Chart
Months result
Pastor: ________________________________ Month: _______________ Apprentice: ____________________________ Coach: ________________ Multiplication date: _________________
Attendance Servants
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Reaching in
Pair partner Name Ministry role within group Date of meeting
Reaching out
Summary of initiatives actioned/proposed
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Health Check
Please your assessment in Yes/No column 1. Vision Our vision is to equip Gods people to do His work, and build up the church so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love (Eph 4:12, 16). Do the members know, and are they committed to the vision of the group? 2. Multiplying The goal of our group is to multiply through effective life-style evangelism. Has your group agreed to the goal of multiplication? Does the group regularly practise outward focussed activities? Are leaders being made ready for multiplication? Has your group prayerfully decided on a date to multiply? 3. Time alone with God Your time alone with the Lord is of critical importance to your life, and the life of your group. Are you spending regular time with the Lord through prayer and His word? Is your relationship with the Lord growing? Do you lead with a spirit of expectation that the Lord desires to do great things in and through your group? Are you leading in your strength and not in the strength of the Spirit? Are you exercising your faith? 4. Prayer Successful group leaders are prayer models. They discipline themselves to pray daily for their members, and they encourage them to pray for each other. Are you and your members praying for each other? 5. New members Every member is responsible for inviting new members to the group. Do you regularly encourage your members to invite new people? Does your group pray for unchurched friends, using a Blessing List? Do you plan regular fun-n-friendly social activities to attract newcomers? Group pastors name: Y N
Appendix 2
Please your assessment in Yes/No column 6. Raising-up new leaders Healthy groups are leader breeder groups. The Lord has gifted every believer with some leadership ability. Every member has a vital part to play in the life of their group. Do you invite your members to share in the leadership of the group? Are you purposeful in grooming apprentice leaders in preparation for when your group will multiply? Do your members know their spiritual gifts? Are they practising their gifts? Are you helping them to develop their gifts? Are you engaged in active delegation? 7. Member satisfaction Do you know the needs of the members in your group? Are their needs being met? Are members regular in attendance? Do they value and enjoy their time together? Are the members in pair-partnerships? Is there transparency and accountability in the life of the group? Does your group have a group covenant? Do you evaluate the life of your group? 8. Group meetings Do meetings foster intimacy and honest sharing? Do the sessions start and finish on time? Is there a freedom for everyone to share safeguarded from criticism and rejection? 9. Coach support Its of critical importance that you feel supported by your coach. Does your coach regularly meet with you? Do you have a good working relationship with your coach? Do you provide your coach with a monthly Progress Chart? Date:
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Appendix 3
Evaluation
Your honest evaluation of this session will help us know the health and progress of our group, high-lighting strengths and suggesting growth areas. Yes
1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Did the meeting start and finish on time? Was the general atmosphere friendly, informal and inviting? Did everyone have equal opportunity to participate? Was reasonable order and control maintained? Did you feel valued and affirmed by the group? Do you do fun things in the group? Do you enjoy your involvement in the group? Is there enough variety in the group time? Do you know your groups vision and strategy? Are you pleased with the overall leadership of the pastor?
No
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12. What was the low point/s of todays session?
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13. If you could improve just one thing in the group, what would it be?
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Thank you for your honest comments.
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Appendix 4
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Additional resources
by Bill Joukhadar
Growing Up into His Likeness
Believers are to be like the Lord in character and conduct. Whilst it takes but one moment to be born into the Christian faith, it takes the rest of our lives on earth to grow-up into the likeness of our Lord and Saviour (discipleship). Growing Up into His Likeness is for every believer who is serious about growing in his/her faith. Cost: $A12 (plus postage)
by Michael Bennett
Christianity Explained workbook
This workbook is an ideal, practical tool for sharing the Good News of Jesus Christ with an unchurched friend in a simple, clear and unrushed manner ... helping the hearer to make an intelligent decision concerning Christ. This workbook is designed to be used in conjunction with the main textbook Christianity Explained. Cost: $A6 (plus postage)
by Joel Comiskey
Home Cell Group Explosion How your small group can grow and multiply The Relational Disciple
How God uses community to shape followers of Jesus
Discover
Use your gifts and help others find theirs
Coach
Empower others to effectively lead a small group
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