The 7 Habits

Of Highly Effective
Teens
7 Habits of Highly
Effective Teens

For teens, life is not a

playground,

it's a jungle.
7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

As a teen, you will need direction

as you navigate through your
school years.

And you may encounter many

roadblocks in your path.
7 Habits of
Highly Effective Teens

What is a habit?

How long do habits take to form?

What types of habits are there?

What is a Habit?
 Exercise
•  Divide into groups

•  Get together and decide

on a definition of HABIT

•  Write it down
Class definitions of HABIT
 Define - Habit
•  Things you do repeatedly, but you
are often unaware that you do
them

•  A constant performance
of an act, acquired through
frequent repetition
 Habits can make you
or break you
•  Good habits can help you be successful
–  Do homework-get good grades-go to college of choice

•  Bad habits can detract from your

success
–  Don’t do homework, get bad grades,
don’t go to college of choice

•  Some habits just are

–  These don’t help you or hurt you.
Always tie right shoe first
 List your Habits
List 3 good habits
1.
2.
3.
List 3 bad habits
1.
2.
3.
List 3 that don’t matter
1.
2.
3.
 Changing a Habit
•  It’s not always easy to change a
habit, but it’s always possible
•  Cross your arms
•  Now cross them the other way.
How does it feel?
•  If you fold them the opposite way
for 30 days, it would become a
new habit
 What are the 7 Habits?

1.  Be Proactive
2.  Begin with the end in mind
3.  Put first things first
4.  Think win-win
5.  Seek first to understand then to be
understood
6.  Synergize
7.  Sharpen the Saw
 How can these habits
help you?
•  Get control of your •  Define your values
life •  Get more done in
•  Improve your less time
relationships •  Increase your self
•  Make smarter confidence
decisions •  Be happy
•  Get along with your
parents
•  Find balance among
school, work, friends
and everything else
Habit #1
Be Proactive
Proactive vs. Reactive
Calm, cool, and Exploding from
collected vs.   pressure
Proactive vs. Reactive
Think before acting vs.   Acting on impulse
Reactive Language
Proactive Language
Habit #2
Begin With the End
In Mind
Begin with the End in Mind
If you aren't clear about where you want
to end up in life,
about your values, goals,
and what you stand for,
you will wander and waste time.
Habit # 2 – Begin With
the End in Mind
Create a personal mission
statement which will act

as a road map to direct and guide

your decision-making process.
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See Page 20-21 of Workbook
最初の最初のものを置く

Habit #3
Put First Things
First
最初の最初のものを置く

Put First Things First
This habit helps teens prioritize
and manage their time so that
they focus on and complete the
most important things in their
lives.
Create an Agenda
What kinds of things
could a student
include in an agenda?

DISCUSS SHARE!
Take the next 5 minutes and write
down some things in your agenda
that you know are coming up this
week or next.

During the week, refer to your

agenda often.
Morning, afternoon, evening.
 The 4
Quadrants
Quadrant 2
is the key
Putting first things first means
living life according to what

matters most to you.

Habit #4
Think Win-Win
 Win-Lose
•  Win-Lose is competitive. Think
of it as a totem pole "as long as I
am higher than you on the totem
pole, I don't care how good I
am".
•  Someone who thinks win-lose
disregards the feelings of
others, is jealous, and tries to
get ahead at the expense of
others.
•  Heads I win, Tails you lose!
 Lose-Win
•  Lose-Win says, "Have your way
with me. Wipe your feet on me.
Everyone else does.

•  This type of thinking results in

keeping quiet because it's
easier than speaking up and
letting others win without
trying.
 Lose-Lose
•  Lose-Lose says, "If I'm going
down, you're coming with me!"

•  This results in nobody winning.

•  A downward spiral
 Win-Win
•  Win-Win is a belief that all people
can win. This results in taking
others' feelings into consideration,
while still acknowledging that your
feelings are just as valid.
•  This requires some compromise.
 EXERCISE
Read Marie and Mom scenario
on page 147 from The 7 Habits
Of Highly Effective Teens

Has something like this ever

happened in your home?

Share!
It is possible to create an
atmosphere of win-win

in every relationship.
 EXERCISE
Read the basketball example
from The 7 Habits Of Highly
Effective Teens
on page 152-153

Discuss!
This habit encourages the idea
that in any given discussion or
situation both parties can arrive
at a mutually beneficial solution.
 Learn to celebrate the
accomplishments of others
instead of being threatened

by them.
 HABIT 4

WIN-WIN SITUATIONS

EXERCISES PAGE 30-31

(ROLE PLAYING EXERCISE IF TIME)

End of Day 1
Habit #5
Seek First to Understand,
Then be Understood
5 Poor Listening Skills
1.  Spacing Out
2.  Pretend Listening
3.  Selective Listening
4.  Word Listening
5.  Self-Centered
Listening

EXERCISE pages 34-35

Active Listening
Habit 5 ensures you
learn the most important
communication skill
there is:
active listening.
Genuine Listeners

1)  Listen with your eyes,

heart, and ears.

2)  Communication is
53% Body Language
40% Tone / Feeling
7% Words
The Kanji for the verb
“To listen”
is comprised of
symbols that
represent:
Ears,
Eyes,
Heart and
Undivided Attention.
Habit #6
Synergize
The Uses of a Paperclip

You have 2 minutes to write as

many uses for a paper clip
as you can.
The Uses of a Paperclip

Now, with a partner, you have

another 2 minutes to write as
many uses for a paper clip
as you can.
The Uses of a Paperclip

Was it easier with a partner?

Do you like to work with others?

Why or why not?

 Uses for a paper clip
1. Use to clip pieces of paper together 33. Use to eject DVD stuck in drive
2. Book marker 34. Use as hands of a clock
3. Hair clip 35. Support for small plants
4. Lock picker 36. Hair pin
5. Use to scratch things 37. Bend into thingy to find water underground
6. Bend into a ring 38. Solution mixer
7. Bend lots together to make a bracelet/necklace 39. Get batches together to use a weights
8. Make barbed wire 40. Use as a currency
9. Replace wires in a circuit with joined up paper clips 41. Stick paper onto it to make into a flag
10. Reset watches, organizers etc. 42. Use as toothpick
11. Make a chain 43. Use in piercings
12. Magnetize to make a compass 44. Stick lost onto piece of wood to make metal brush
13. Acupuncture 45. Use as brace wire
14. Earrings 46. Use as darts
15. Solder together to make glasses 47. Use for curtain hooks
16. Straighten and give to a mouse as a tap-dancing stick 48. Disguise as a kilt-pin
17. Make into a sculpture 49. Torture implement
18. Make into a hook and eye 50. Use as plectrum
19. Melt down to produce other things 51. Magnetize it to make a magnet
20. Use as needle 52. Drill a hole in it to make a drinking straw
21. Make into key ring 53. Disguise as a pipe cleaner
22. Use for end of compass 54. Make stilts for mice
23. Sew onto material to make futuristic/metallic dress 55. Bend into a hook/spoon thingy for science experiments
24. Tie-clip 56. Stick lots together to make an Alice band
25. Spike to hold bits of paper etc. 57. Use as cocktail stick
26. Make into a wind chime ornament
27. Use as nails
28. Use as a paintbrush
29. Make into a spring
30. Put marks on it to make a ruler
31. Make netting by weaving them together
32. Making into washing pegs
 Synergy is achieved

when two or more people

work together to create something

better than either could alone.
 Everyone is different
and has different strengths and
weakness. Finding people who
compliment your strengths and
weakness will create more energy
and thoughts.
 Diversity
There are three different ways to
deal with diversity

1. The Shunner
2. The Tolerator
3. The Celebrator
 The Shunner

•  They fear differences, skin

color, religion.
•  They feel their way is best and
right they make fun of those
who are different.
•  They may become physically
violent in changing people’s
minds.
•  They may join gangs,
anti-social groups.
 The Tolerator
•  They feel everyone has
the right to be different.
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•  They keep to
themselves and don’t
mingle with other
“different people”.
•  They never create any
synergy because they
don’t interact with
each other.
 The Celebrator

•  Celebrators value differences.

•  People who think differently
bring different ideas and
experiences with them and
they can create something
neither one could do by
themselves.
•  They may not agree with the
ideas, but they want to hear
them.
Synergy allows us to value
differences and better
appreciate others.
 Getting to Synergy:
Action Planning
1.  ? Define the problem or opportunity
_____________________________________________
2.  < Their Way - seek first to understand
the ideas of others
_____________________________________________
3.  > My Way- seek to be understood by
sharing your ideas
_____________________________________________
4.  * Brainstorm- create new options and
ideas
_____________________________________________
5.  + High Way- find the best solution
_____________________________________________
 Definitions
•  Imaginative - (creative thinker - comes up with new ideas)
•  Investigative - Asking questions, trying to figure things out
•  Analytical - Thinks about how to break things down, the steps etc
•  Adaptable - Able to adjust to a new environment
•  Inquisitive - Someone who asks a lot of questions, wants to know
•  the answers for things
•  Critical - Someone who always looks at the good and the bad of a
•  situation
•  Practical - Someone who is more interested in 'doing' rather than
•  'thinking'
•  Inventive - Someone who comes up with new ideas easily
•  Precise - Someone who pays attention to detail
•  Systematic - Someone who follows plans strictly
•  Logical - Someone who follows reason instead of emotion
•  Associate - Someone who makes connections between things
•  Originate - Someone who comes up with new original ideas
•  Spontaneous - Someone who does things without planning!
 It doesn't have to be

“your way” or “my way”

but rather a better way

Habit #7
Sharpen the Saw
 Teens should never get

too busy living

not to take time to renew
themselves.
Habit # 7 – Sharpen the Saw

Sharpening the saw means

regularly renewing and
strengthening the four key
dimensions of life
– body, brain, heart, and soul.
 Renew Yourself
You should never get so busy in your life that
you don't take time to renew yourself in 4
different areas:

•  Body Exercise, eat healthy, sleep well,

relax

•  Brain Read, educate, write,

learn new skills

•  Heart Build relationships, give service,

laugh

•  Soul Meditate, keep a journal, pray,

quality media
When a teen "sharpens the saw"
he or she is keeping their
personal self sharp so that she
can better deal with life.
 Self Evaluation
Complete the following self evaluation in your notebook.

The area of my life (body, mind, heart, soul) the most developed is
________________________________ because...
______________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________

The area of my life (body, mind, heart, soul) that needs more effort is
________________________________ because...

The goal I want to set for myself which relates to habit 7 is:
______________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________

One strategy I can use to attain this goal is:

______________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________

This is how I will measure my success with my goal:

______________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________
7 Habits of Highly
Effective Teens

A Quick Review
7 Habits of Highly
Effective Teens
Habit # 1 – Be Proactive
Habit # 2 – Begin With the end in Mind
Habit # 3 – Put First things First
Habit # 4 – Think Win-Win
Habit # 5 – Seek First to Understand, Then
Be Understood
Habit # 6 – Synergize
Habit # 7 – Sharpen the Saw
 The 7 Habits
Of Highly Effective
Teens

Thank You!