Huh. This is a new one.

I don’t think you can expect to find someone attractive from all angles, all the time. 

Also, our features change as we get older. Long-term love usually means caring for someone even when they lose hair, get wrinkles, sometimes get very hot, etc.

The important thing is that you adore the foundation of what’s there – that when you look at him you think, “This guy – I get to be with him.” If his front view doesn’t make you feel that way, this isn’t the relationship for you.

Loving him dearly might not enough be to sustain things, especially long-distance. (Or maybe the long-distance is what makes it work. At the moment, you don’t have to do as much face-to-face quality time.) 

You didn’t say what keeps you in the relationship or why you chose him to begin with. You said nothing about what you’d lose if he went away. Your letter makes it sound like you’re trying to be in love.

You’re allowed to break up with someone for this reason. You can be kind and say you don’t feel strongly enough about any of it (no specific details about facial features). 

He’s good on paper – has the right profile, one might say – but that’s not enough.

– Meredith

Readers? What view do you prefer of your partner? Does this issue mean that the LW isn’t very into the boyfriend? Is this a long-distance issue? Are you supposed to love someone’s face all of the time?